If you don't like something, change it.
I consider myself a positive person…my glass is ALWAYS half full!!
But falling into the trap of bitching and moaning and wanting different, wanting more is a state we all fall into at some time or another. I think this applies especially here in Hong Kong where we constantly compare ourselves with others. We always think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence…and spend way too much time contemplating the ‘what if’ and not spending enough time appreciating the ‘what now’.
I have recently set myself the task of attempting to change my attitude by being more grateful, looking for the good in a situation and seeking out the positive.
The past 6 months have included some big changes in my life. I have tried to look at these not as problems (I reframed ‘problems’ as ‘challenges’ a couple of years ago…I have now reframed ‘challenges’ as ‘opportunities’!!) but as opportunities…and my catch phrase has been “Everything happens for a reason”…if you have spent time with me in recent months you’ll have heard this phrase often!
I have chosen to live a positive happy life…you can to!
Steps to Living a positive life:
Believe Happiness is your Choice
I only recently discovered this…its very simple and we should all know it…but I needed someone to tell me…so I’m mentioning it you! We can choose how we feel! How liberating! OK…so not always easy…but good to know we have this option…right? It’s great to know that we have control over our happiness levels. We get to choose! So don’t get bogged down in a bad mood, choose to let it go and choose happy.
No more Negativity
Dump people who bring you down! You cannot live a positive life if you are surrounded by toxic people who drain you and diminish your energy levels. Again easier said than done…but if you truly want to be living a happy life you need to bite the bullet and catapult them. Surround yourself with like minded people who bring you energy, try new activities to make new friends or go back to an activity that you enjoyed in your youth that has fallen by the wayside.
We are surrounded by positivity…people, circumstances and opportunities! Sometimes by just asking the question “What’s good about this?” will bring forth answers you might have missed whilst spending time thinking of the negatives in the situation. This is a great habit to cultivate…once you start finding good and feeling grateful you’ll start attracting more good!
I’ve been working with women recently on gratitude, specifically being grateful for ourselves. It’s been amazing how many comments I have heard that remind me how much we take our fabulousness for granted. We find it easy to criticise and moan rather than celebrate our personalities, attributes and glorious bodies. If you don’t love you, no one else will!
By being nice to other people you can share your positivity with those around you. Appreciate your team at work, compliment a stranger on their appearance, smile at a stranger, hold the door open…simple things that show you care! By sharing you’ll feel good about yourself, you’ll increase feelings of wellbeing, you’ll feel happy!
Enjoy the now
Live in this moment, focus on what is happening now, don’t worry about the future or feel sad about the past. If you spend time over analysing or trying to predict your future, you’ll miss out on the present.
By dwelling on negative things that ‘might’ occur you are putting negative thoughts into your mind and out into the universe, by focusing on these you are more likely to attract them. If we are worrying and not taking action and moving towards our goal we are wasting energy and we get stuck. Get unstuck by taking baby steps towards your goal as Einstein said “Nothing happens until something moves.”
Do you consider yourself a positive person?
In your journal write down a list of 5 things every evening that you are grateful for as a celebration of your day!